Grief. It’s a word that’s as heavy as it sounds, right? We all encounter it at some point—whether it’s losing a loved one, a job, or even a dream. It’s part of the human experience, and yet, it often feels like an unwelcome guest that lingers far too long. But here’s the thing: grief isn’t something to just get over; it’s something we move through. And guess what? You don’t have to do it alone.
In our latest episode of the “Road to Happiness” podcast, we dive deep into the winding road of grief, exploring how we can navigate this challenging terrain with both faith and science by our side. Let’s break it down.
Grief is more than just sadness. It’s an emotional, physical, and spiritual reaction to loss. While losing a loved one is often what comes to mind, grief can also stem from a breakup, losing a job, or even something less tangible, like the life you thought you’d have. The important thing to remember is that grief is personal, and there’s no one-size-fits-all timeline for it.
The Bible doesn’t shy away from the reality of grief. Remember the shortest verse in the Bible, “Jesus wept” (John 11:35)? Even Jesus, knowing He would soon raise Lazarus from the dead, took the time to grieve. This simple yet profound moment shows us that grief is a valid and important part of our human experience.
Let’s get a little nerdy for a second. When we experience loss, our nervous system can go haywire. Imagine your brain as a city grid—grief is like a massive power outage that leaves everything in chaos. This is why you might feel physically drained, mentally foggy, or emotionally numb after a loss.
But here’s the good news: just like your body can heal a cut, your brain can also heal from the emotional wounds of grief. Understanding the science behind what’s happening in your brain during grief can actually be empowering. It helps us see that while grief is incredibly tough, it’s also something that we can move through with the right support and practices.
So, what do you do when someone you care about is grieving? Spoiler alert: you don’t have to have all the answers. In fact, the best thing you can do is just be there. Here’s how:
Create a Safe Space
Remember how Jesus provided comfort to those He ministered to? You can do the same by simply being a steady presence. Sometimes, just sitting with someone in their pain speaks louder than any words you could say.
Help Them Regulate
Grief can throw someone’s nervous system into overdrive, making it hard to think straight. Encourage simple practices like deep breathing or just being still. These small steps can help calm their nervous system, making it easier to process their emotions.
Encourage Expression
Grief needs an outlet. Whether it’s through talking, writing, or even crying, encourage your friend to express their feelings. Let them know that all emotions—anger, sadness, confusion—are valid and part of the healing process.
Guide Them to Jesus
As Christians, we believe that true comfort comes from God. Encourage those who are grieving to bring their pain to Him in prayer. Scriptures like Psalm 34:18 remind us that “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Grief is not a destination; it’s a journey. And while the road might be long and winding, it’s one that we don’t have to walk alone. As you navigate your own grief or walk alongside someone in theirs, remember that combining biblical wisdom with an understanding of how grief impacts our nervous system can make a world of difference.
And hey, don’t forget to check out our podcast episode for a deeper dive into this topic. You’ll walk away with practical tips, spiritual encouragement, and maybe even a little bit of hope for the road ahead.
Grief is tough, but together, with faith, science, and a lot of love, we can get through it.
Stay tuned for more episodes of the “Road to Happiness” podcast, where we tackle life’s biggest challenges with a blend of humor, heart, and a little bit of holy wisdom. 🎙️💡
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