Bec asks, “I’m a female that started having anal sex recently, and afterwards, I experience abdominal pain. What is that about? What can be done about it?”/p>

CASSIE

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JOSH SPURLOCK ON THE DANGER OF ANAL SEX

First of all, let me tell you that we really discourage anal sex. The anus and the sphincter muscle surrounding the anus are really not designed to experience the thrusting that anal sex produces like the vagina is. The vagina and the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina are made for thrusting, hold up well to it, and are able to enjoy it throughout the course of a lifetime.

The same can’t be said about the anus and the muscles around the anus. You can really put yourself at risk of some damage that can be permanent and really problematic for you. I’d encourage you to reconsider anal sex as an outlet for connecting sexually.

Secondly, I’d encourage you to get in with a physician to have some testing done for the abdominal pain. I’m not sure what that is about, but they’re able to run the tests necessary to see physiologically what’s happening there for you, to see what might be creating abdominal pain, and help you address that.